Are you over 40 and looking to find love? As a dating coach for women, one thing I have learned over the last 10 years is that its not always easy to find midlife single men. Don't get me wrong - I KNOW they are out there. But women complain to me how hard it is to find single men. It seems like the married men are so much easier to spot.
So where are the single midlife men? They are online! Here are 5 top reasons why online dating is the way to meet single men over 40.
1. The older men get, the scarcer they seem. But you can find them online!
It's so true. While this is a generalization, as men age, they tend to become more private. That's what makes it seem like there are so few. There are plenty of quality single men over 40, but they are not joiners like women who seek community and attend events. As a result, they are not that visible in the general population. But, one thing I can guarantee is that you can find them online!
2. It doesn't cost a fortune.
No matter what you do to meet men, its going to have a cost. Singles dances, speed dating or just going to a bar all have a price tag. On the other hand, Match.com is less than $100 for six months. When you look at it that way - its only $15 a month! See, that's cheap. To make the most of your investment, my online dating advice is to avoid sites that won’t let you browse first before paying. You may have to fill out your profile to look around, but that's OK. I also recommend that my dating coaching clients avoid matching sites that use personality tests - men aren't as interested in that aspect as women, so fewer men over 40 are on those sites.
3. Getting started is quick and easy!
You can write your profile and post a few pictures in an afternoon. Then within 24 hours, most sites approve your profile and you are ready to start searching for your man! Again, my advice as a dating coach is not to get paralyzed by trying to get it perfect. Posting something is more important than perfection, so just get started. Your profile often evolves and you will likely change it several times as you refine your search. You might write something new, edit it or add new pictures - all good because that keeps you fresh on the site. So, don't hold off because you want to get it just right.
4. It's a valid part of the dating scene - 20% of all relationships start online.
You just can't argue with the success so many singles have enjoyed. The statistics tell the story - 20% of all relationships start online, as well as 12% of marriages. I had a Justice of the Peace as a dating coaching client one time who said she joined Match.com because so many of the couples she married met there! Yes, online dating is here to stay and a valid part of the dating scene.
5. You can meet men you would never meet any other way.
I have heard some amazing stories about women who met great guys that lived near them, yet they never would have encountered them any other way. One story was about a couple in Manhattan who actually lived across the street from each other. In fact, their apartments faced each other! But would they have ever met on the street? Possible, but unlikely.
One of my own dating coaching clients, Sarah, met a guy in the suburbs who literally lived around the corner in her neighborhood.
Stop worrying and give it a try.
From socialites to regular folk, people meet online and fall in love every day. Honestly, I don't know what you are waiting for. If you need help, there are plenty of experts (like me) who can help with your profile or tell you how to make the most of this great way to meet men over 40.