UPDATE: Milford Woman Grabs, Yells at 9-Year-Old

The alleged incident occurred at the juvenile's school bus stop in May.

Update on August 1st at 11:24 a.m.:

The juvenile involved in this alleged incident was 9-years-old, rather than 12-years-old. The below article has been corrected to reflect this. This age different does not affect the charges.

Original Story:

On July 17th at 11:30a.m., arrested Natalia Bakilana, 37 of Market Place, Milford, who allegedly grabbed and yelled at a 9-year-old juvenile over his behavior at a school bus stop. 

The alleged incident occurred on May 29th. There was no physical injury reported by victim during the incident.

Bakilana has been charged with disorderly conduct. She was released on a promise to appear in court on August 7th.

This article was originally published on July 20th.

CT. PROPERTY APPRAISERS July 20, 2012 at 02:38 PM
Maybe it's the 12 year olds parents that should be spoken to. My office is downtown and I have witnessed destruction of private property, verbal abuse of property owners, total disreguard of rules and regulations pertaining to skate boards and dirt bikes in Milford center. ALL of this by 12-14 year old middle school students.
Concerned Parent July 20, 2012 at 03:11 PM
There's no justification for this woman's action. If there is an issue with any child, no stranger has the right to take the matter in their own hands. They should contact the police. PERIOD.
Starla July 20, 2012 at 09:05 PM
I did just that, call the police. I used to work across the street from a Catholic HS., all girls. Their behavior was in one word, disgusting. Cursing, carrying on with boyfriends right in front of the school. They would crowd the sidewalk and curse out pedestrians trying to walk by. It took an intervention between the police and the school administrator to get these girls to behave.
CT. PROPERTY APPRAISERS July 21, 2012 at 02:26 PM
ED: Excuse me, are you saying that if an adult comes upon some children beating up on another kid, they should just walk away and not try to stop it? And as far as contacting the police this was done in several instances downtown but by the time the police arrive the kids are either gone, or come back and retaliate with more distruction to the property. There is a BIG difference between child abuse and teaching a child right from wrong.
tjc360 July 21, 2012 at 04:53 PM
OMG! 12 year olds riding skateboards and dirt bikes? Maybe if people would ask nice instead of bothering the cops with meaningless calls they might just listen, but they look for any little thing without reason just to call the cops, they are kids! They cant ride anywhere except a caged park that is comfortable with about 6 kids and usually has 40. Newsflash: There is a middle school right there, maybe the next thing you can do is just have kids banned from downtown all together. Milford has become a haven for stuffy/Westport like snobs that have lived here for 2 years and think they can make any rule or ordinance they want, look at yourself before you accuse other parents or their kids of being bad because maybe its just you.
Amy July 22, 2012 at 05:17 PM
I was downtown with my 7 yr old. He was riding his bike and yelled "woohoo" when he went through a small puddle at the curb. An older woman on the sidewalk several feet ahead of us turned around and yelled "J___s Ch___t" at him! It's not just kids behaving badly.
Concerned Parent July 22, 2012 at 05:24 PM
@CT Property Appraisers. Let me put this in terms you will clearly understand. If it was my child who was grabbed, that person would be arrested. I cannot be more clearer than that. Breaking up a fight between 2 kids is one thing, but grabbing a child that is not your own is altogether different.
Garo Kapikian July 22, 2012 at 08:22 PM
The child was nine years old, not twelve. He has a disability. Unlike the kids that you hear shamefully cursing in public so often, this child does not know how to curse. Moreover, he has no violent propensities whatsoever. He wanted to get on the school bus. The so called woman who put her paws on him had no right to do so.
Larissa Watt July 23, 2012 at 04:58 PM
Of course a parent doesn't usually have a right to touch someone else's child but there are certain circumstances it should be allowed..For instance, what if you encounter a child beating up another..Are u just going to stand there and allow the to get hurt or are you going to break it up? Break it up and call the police......but we shouldn't be so quick to judge this story b/c there aren't alot of details..we don't really know what happened.. And come on, seriously..there is a difference between grabbing a child's arm and hitting them.....Just b/c you don't like something my child does you better not touch them but if they are being unruly, perhaps you have to grab them..
Larissa Watt July 23, 2012 at 04:59 PM
I agree!
CT. PROPERTY APPRAISERS July 24, 2012 at 04:00 PM
NEWSFLASH TO YOU how will you feel when one of these kids gets hit by a car after they have zoomed out into River Street, Darina Place of High Street like I've seen them do. How about the damage caused to the steps of the Parsons Complex caused by skateboards? There are pleanty of places for kids to "hang out" in Milford without being downtown. Boys & Grils Club, the YMCA, skateboard parks. I am talking about rude kids you use the F word when an adult tells them to stop destroying property. I have lived in Milford over 50 years, raised two sons here, and they were raised to be polite and respect other peoples property.
koge July 31, 2012 at 06:26 PM
It looks like it took a very long time for the police to charge her. And if this much time has elapsed, they must of found sufficient information that this warranted an arrest now. Don't be quick to say the child deserved it. The woman is old enough to know the law and how to respond, even IF the child was being abnoxious.
Concerned Parent July 31, 2012 at 06:33 PM
@koge...I agree.
Ryan Sartor (Editor) August 01, 2012 at 03:29 PM
This article has been updated to reflect that the juvenile involved was 9-years-old, rather than the originally reporter 12-years-old. Thanks to koge for the tip.
Angus August 01, 2012 at 03:49 PM
My son skateboards downtown all the time, but does so to enjoy himself and to get some exercise. He is in no way engaging in "destruction of private property." Mr (or Mrs.) property appraiser needs to lighten up. And really, I haven't seen any posted "rules and regulations" in downtown pertaining to skate boards. Where might they be?
Kelly August 01, 2012 at 07:14 PM
Kelly August 01, 2012 at 07:19 PM
i agree Larisa. Too many adults have poor behavior, so who is to set the example for these kids. WHERE IS THE PARENTAL SUPERVISION???? If a child is in danger, you'd better do whatever you can to help, including calling the police.
PK August 01, 2012 at 10:28 PM
To answer the skateboarding questions above. There was an City ordinance many years ago in the 80's- no skate boarding or bike riding downtown on sidewalks. I'm not sure if it is still in effect. I had a skate boarding son and his friends, who rode downtown during this time. He and his friends were respectful and did not damage property & there was no where else for them to ride at the time - no skateboard park. I thought it unfair at the time. I do not object to either bikes or skateboarders, as long as they are careful of the pedestrians & cars, but I understand that they are intimidating to some people & they do now have a park.
MJ August 02, 2012 at 12:57 PM
Was the 9-year old's parent at the bus stop?
Concerned Parent August 02, 2012 at 03:46 PM
Whether there is an ordinance of if the parent was or wasn't there...these are lames excuses for this woman's actions.
Ryan Sartor (Editor) August 02, 2012 at 03:52 PM
Paul Piscitelli, Director of Recreation for Milford, had the following comment about the rules for skateboarding in Milford: "The Recreation Department encourages skate boarders to use the Skate Park at Washington Field. The rules and regulations regarding skate boarding in public are addressed in the City Ordinances 14-3 and 18-71 he is the link to the online version of the Ordinances http://www.ecode360.com/MI3026"
koku September 19, 2012 at 11:14 PM
Dear Koge, please do not condemn me, I did not grab the child or yell at the boy as they claimed, There is a video showing the incident. I did not grab him. There is a tremendous bias in this case.


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